Sometimes we wake up in the morning and things just feel wrong. Right from the get go. We don’t know the reason for it and we just want to know how to feel better.
It can feel like we don’t have any control over this off-kilter feeling. Like the feeling has control over us for the whole day.
This feeling sucks.
How to feel better when you wake up on the wrong side of the bed:
This post contains my 5 top tips for getting yourself out of a funk.
1. Start off by reminding yourself that you have a choice.
You can’t control the feelings you have right when you wake up, but you CAN control what you feed and put energy into.
By reminding yourself you have a choice, and recognizing that the bad feelings you’re having are not ones that you want to carry through your whole day, you can at the very least set a conscious intention for choosing to change your mood and experience.
It may sound a little silly, or like an overly simplified “mind over matter” piece of advice, but there’s a difference.
Mind over matter can sometimes seem like you’re just trying to make yourself feel happy or different using brute force of the mind. What I’m suggesting is more like reminding yourself that you’re not “stuck” in being in a bad mood today, and in knowing that you can open yourself to the possibility of your mood changing for the better as the day goes on.
I know it can be so easy to feel like you’re stuck in the experience of being upset, or depressed, or angry, or in a funk or any other feeling, and once we’ve decided we’re stuck, we don’t allow anything to wedge ourselves out of that place.
You don’t have to force yourself to change or suddenly be in a better mood – just don’t consign yourself to being stuck. (This is tough for those of us who are stubborn – that’s me all the way!)
2. Try to identify possible causes.
Take a moment to think about your emotional and physical states that may be contributing to you feeling bad.
Questions to ask yourself about your emotional state:
Did I have any dreams that are affecting me?
Have I gotten any news recently that is troubling me?
What happened during my day yesterday that changed the course of my mood or may be lingering?
Is there something coming up soon that I am feeling dread or anxiety about?
Questions to ask yourself about your physical state:
How much sleep did I get last night?
Did I drink last night?
Am I dehydrated?
Starting my period soon?
Have I been eating poorly?
Our moods can be altered so easily by external factors. You may be influenced by a combination of these things.
For instance, there might be something that happened yesterday that has been weighing on your heart in the background or making you feel uneasy without you realizing it.
You may ALSO be very dehydrated.
Obviously, drinking a gallon of water won’t fix whatever is weighing on your emotions, and I don’t mean to sound invalidating of those emotions, but the water will at least help your body and mind feel better, and the overall effect will be lessened.
In other words, do what you CAN do to help yourself out.
3. Do what you can to address those causes.
Drink some water. Get yourself some caffeine if you’re a caffeine addict like me. Eat a healthy breakfast with some protein. Burn some sage if you feel some bad dreams lingering. Take some advil if you’ve got period cramps or a headache.
4. Get some fresh air and/or move your body.
Step outside for a minute and just breathe. It’s very easy to go a long time without breathing any fresh air and not realize it. The effect of it can be instantly revitalizing.
If you can muster the energy, go get a little bit of exercise in, in any form. I’m by no means a fit athlete, but I can say that when I exercise because I’m feeling lousy, I feel marginally to dramatically better 100% of the time.
It doesn’t matter what it is. You could go for a hike, swim, ride your bike somewhere, go for a run, go to the gym and lift weights, go to a yoga class, or just walk around your neighborhood for 10 minutes if that’s all you can talk yourself into. It’ll help.
5. Fill your cup.
Identify something you can do for yourself, preferably earlier in the day than later, that will either replenish you or make you feel like you accomplished something.
To replenish yourself, you could make yourself a cup of tea, run a bath, put on some essential oils, go for a walk, or read a book to escape your own life and your own feelings for a while.
If you want to do something that will make you feel productive, start by making your bed.
Then think about something that has been hanging out on your to do list all week, or maybe a few weeks, and just get it done.
Having things stay on your to do list too long drains your energy and weighs on you. Get it done in the morning so you feel buoyant and have the rest of your day free to enjoy.
What if none of these things work?
If these 5 steps fail you, your last resort is to just be kind to yourself and remember that these feelings won’t last forever.
Like the tides, we have high days and low days.
Sometimes there’s not much we can do to “fix” a low tide day.
Just acknowledge that you’re having a low tide day, allow yourself to have it (there’s nothing wrong with that), and know that the high tide will be back soon. Don’t judge yourself for it.
If you’re really struggling, reach out to someone. You can talk to a friend who you feel understands you.
Or sometimes just hanging out with a friend without having to talk about the negative feelings you’re having can alleviate them.
If you’d rather talk to someone who doesn’t know you, and you’re having suicidal thoughts, visit the International Suicide Prevention Wiki page to find a hotline or text-line to reach out to someone.
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Until next time,